He left home after 1851 and in 1861 it looks as if he had not moved far, being a merchant, married and with three young children:

Name Relation Condition Sex Age Birth Year Occupation  Disability  Where Born

REID, Thomas Head Married M 40 1821 Merchant C  Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Jane M Wife Married F 30 1831   Norwich, Norfolk
REID, Margaret Daughter Unmarried F 4 1857   Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, John K Son M 2 1859   Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Adelaide N Daughter F 0 (9M) 1861   Hampstead, Middlesex
PLOWMAN, Caroline Servant Unm. F 27 1834   Nurse   Weymouth, Dorset
WOOD, Eliza Servant Unmarried F ? Cook   Suffolk, Wilsett

RG number: RG09 Piece: 93 Folio: 136 Page: 11    

Registration District: Hampstead Sub District: 1 Hampstead
EnumerationDistrict:   Ecclesiastical Parish: Christchurch

Civil Parish: Hampstead Municipal Borough:
Address: Heath, Hampstead
County: London, Middlesex
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A marriage candidate, perhaps if Manchester was a merchanting area.:

Surname First name(s) District Vol Page
Marriages Dec 1855   (>99%)
HARRIS George Manchester 8d 339   
NORTON Jane Maidstone Manchester 8d 339   <---
REID Thomas Manchester 8d 339   <---
WILLIAMSON Mary Manchester 8d 339

and:

Surname First name(s) District Vol Page
Marriages Sep 1856   (>99%)
ALLSOP Jane Billericay 4a 157   
REID Thomas Billericay 4a 157   
Wakeland Abraham Billericay 4a 157   
WATSON Jane Billericay 4a 157
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In 1871, he and his family had vanished but in 1881 this looks like him and a later clutch of children:

Name Relation Condition Sex Age Birth Year Occupation  Disability  Where Born

REID, Thomas Head Married M 60 1821 Merchant  Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Jane Wife Married F 50 1831 Wife  Norwich, Norfolk
REID, Gay Daughter Single F 20 1861   Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Ethel Daughter Single F 15 1866   Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Alec Son Single M 17 1864 Clerk   Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Edmund Son Single M 13 1868   Hampstead, Middlesex
REID, Bruce Son Single M 11 1870   Hampstead, Middlesex
DUXTON, Elizabeth Servant Widow F 35 1846 Cook  London, Middlesex
TANSLEY, Sarah Servant Single F 16 1865 Housemaid  Cottingham, Northamptonshire

RG number: RG11 Piece: 167 Folio: 94 Page: 26    

Registration District: Hampstead Sub District: Hampstead
EnumerationDistrict:   Ecclesiastical Parish:

Civil Parish: Hampstead Municipal Borough:
Address: Rasquine, Hampstead
County: Middlesex
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In 1891 they were not to be found and in 1901 he was a widower with three of his children:

Name Relation Condition Sex Age Birth Year Occupation  Disability  Where Born

REID, Thomas Head Widower M 81 1820 Commission Merchant  St Johns Hampstead, London
REID, Adelaide N Daughter Single F 40 1861   St Johns Hampstead
REID, Alexander Son Single M 37 1864 Merchant Clerk  St Johns Hampstead
REID, Ethel J Daughter Single F 35 1866   St Johns Hampstead
COX, Helen Servant Single F 51 1850 Servant Domestic  St Johns Yeovil, Somersetshire

RG number: RG13 Piece: 5336 Folio: 71 Page: 21    

Registration District: Hendon Sub District: Hendon
EnumerationDistrict: 15 Ecclesiastical Parish: Child's Hill All Saints

Civil Parish: Hendon Municipal Borough:
Address: 4, The Oaks, Patteson Road, Hendon, Childs Hill
County: Middlesex
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The following is the only Jane Reid of the right age who died between 1881, when she was alive, and 1891, when she was dead; St Olave is ‘St Olave Southwark’ and spans Middlesex and Surrey:

Surname First name(s) Age District Vol Page
Deaths Sep 1890   (>99%)
Reid Jane 60 St. Olave 1d 143
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In 1911 he only had his daughter Adelaide N with him plus two servants (a married couple) and was a Retired Chemical Agent.

His death:

Surname First name(s) Age District Vol Page
Deaths Mar 1912   (>99%)
Reid Thomas 92 Hendon 3a 371
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